5 Traditions for a Catholic Burial

Originally posted on November 20, 2019, this post has been edited for accuracy and relevancy.

Of course, funeral traditions vary across different cultures, countries, and religions. These manifold customs and rituals in the wake of a loss are essential ways for cultures to navigate and survive the grieving process. Over the years, St. Charles Monuments has come to honor all of these notable religions and traditions.

As Long Island’s leading monument provider, we understand the integral importance of honoring your faith throughout times of grief. In this post, we’ll discuss the traditions of a Catholic burial, one of the foremost creeds on Long Island.

1. Before Death: Last Rites

For devout Catholics, the process begins even before death. Often, Catholic end-of-life planning involves the family contacting a priest as soon as a loved one becomes seriously ill. The priest then administers the Sacraments of the Sick, commonly referred to as the Last Rites.

But what are the Last Rites?

This sacred tradition is meant to spiritually prepare the soul for death. It typically involves three components: confession (or an Act of Contrition if confession is not possible), the Anointing of the Sick, and the Eucharist (known as Viaticum when given at the end of life). The priest will also make the Sign of the Cross and may guide the individual in renewing their baptismal promises or reciting the Apostles’ Creed.

For Catholics, this is not only a comfort for the dying but also for the grieving family. It offers reassurance that their loved one is spiritually prepared for eternal life.

2. After Death: Wake Service

What happens after a Catholic passes away?

Immediately following death, the family typically contacts a funeral home to begin making arrangements. One of the first events in the mourning process is the vigil, also known as a wake service. This typically occurs a few days after death, allowing time for loved ones to gather and pay their respects.

During the wake, the body is usually embalmed and displayed in an open or closed casket at a funeral home. Friends and family visit to express condolences and offer prayers. It’s common for a family member or friend to deliver a eulogy during the service, celebrating the life and virtues of the deceased. A priest, deacon, or lay minister often leads a structured prayer service during the wake, sometimes including a Rosary or Liturgy of the Word.

Unlike some traditions (such as Jewish funerals, which occur almost immediately after death), Catholic customs allow time for reflection and visitation. The wake offers both a spiritual and emotional outlet for loved ones to begin the grieving process.

3. Funeral Services

What does a traditional Catholic funeral include?

Following the wake, the funeral Mass is held—typically one or two days later—in a Catholic church. This is a sacred liturgy that honors the deceased and commends their soul to God. The body is brought into the church, where the priest begins with blessings and prayers.

The Catholic funeral Mass consists of several key components: Scripture readings, a homily (a sermon praising the life of the deceased and reflecting on Christian hope), the Eucharist, and the Final Commendation. Family members may participate by doing readings or presenting the gifts during the offertory.

The funeral Mass is deeply rooted in the belief of eternal life and resurrection. The prayers and rituals are meant to comfort the grieving while also honoring God and the life of the person who has passed. A casket adorned with religious symbols such as a crucifix or pall (a white cloth representing baptism) is usually present.

After the service concludes, the funeral procession moves to the place of burial for the Rite of Committal.

4. Catholic Burial Traditions

What are the customs at a Catholic burial?

The burial is often considered the most emotional and final part of the process. Reserved for close family and friends, this part of the tradition marks the physical goodbye. The body is transported to the cemetery, where the priest leads one final prayer service—the Rite of Committal—at the gravesite, tomb, mausoleum, or crypt.

At this time, the priest blesses the burial site with holy water and incense, honoring the sacredness of the body and offering prayers of hope and resurrection. These blessings help prepare the ground as a sacred resting place. According to Catholic teaching, the body is a temple of the Holy Spirit and should be treated with dignity, even after death.

St. Charles Monuments helps families plan and create custom cemetery monuments to mark their loved one’s resting place with faith-based designs and inscriptions that are both beautiful and meaningful.

5. Cremation

Is cremation accepted in the Catholic Church?

For many years, cremation was discouraged by the Church due to beliefs about bodily resurrection. However, in 1963, the Vatican formally allowed cremation under certain conditions, and in 2016, the Church issued further guidance on the matter.

Cremation is now accepted, provided it is done for legitimate reasons and not as a denial of faith. The remains must be treated with the same respect as a body, meaning they should not be scattered, divided, or kept in private homes. Instead, the ashes should be interred in a sacred place like a grave or mausoleum.

St. Charles Monuments offers cremation memorials that comply with Catholic guidelines and allow families to create a permanent and respectful tribute to their loved one.

What Should You Wear to a Catholic Funeral?

Catholic funerals are solemn events that call for conservative and respectful attire. While black is traditional, any subdued color such as navy, gray, or dark brown is appropriate. Men typically wear suits or slacks with dress shirts, while women wear dresses, skirts, or dress pants with modest tops.

This demonstrates reverence for the deceased and shows respect for the sacred nature of the service.

How Long is the Mourning Period in Catholicism?

The Church does not mandate a specific mourning period, but some Catholics observe the traditional “Month’s Mind” Mass around 30 days after death. Additionally, families often commemorate the one-year anniversary of a loved one’s passing with a memorial Mass or gravesite visit.

These ongoing remembrances help families feel connected to their loved ones and supported by their faith.

Can Non-Catholics Attend Catholic Funeral Services?

Absolutely. Non-Catholics are welcome to attend Catholic funerals and should feel comfortable participating in prayers and hymns. However, they should refrain from receiving Holy Communion unless they are practicing Catholics.

The presence of friends and community members, regardless of religious affiliation, is a great comfort to the grieving family and is encouraged by the Church.

How St. Charles Monuments Can Help

At St. Charles Monuments, our aim is to help guide families through the most difficult period they face. No matter your faith, your desired inscription, or the nuance of your customs, our staff will craft a beautiful and meaningful monument for your loved one.

We offer custom memorials, religious iconography, and personalized engraving to help reflect the unique life and beliefs of each individual. Whether you need assistance with traditional monuments or cremation memorials, our compassionate team is here to serve you with dignity and respect.